What Does it Mean to be Happy?

It sounds like the easiest thing in the world, doesn’t it?  Just being happy?

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It’s another one of those things that I think about from time to time, though, mostly because it isn’t so easy for me. It’s something I have to work to achieve and sometimes I have to fight hard to maintain. Over the last few days I have struggled with it and even now I don’t know if it’s due to quitting smoking, the cold I can’t seem to shake, the rainy weather, or the fact that my home life is changing drastically this week (for the better, I should add, but it’s still a big change). Nonetheless, it has been difficult and I have been wondering.

Are we happy because good things happen? Because bad things aren’t happening currently? Is it because people do nice things and we feel what we feel in response to those things or because others have simply ceased being negative in our presence? When someone says “you make me happy,” I have to wonder if they require another person to make them happy, much the same as when my nephew says “I’m bored” (which I can’t stand) because he wants me to find something for him to do. Is happiness something that begins inside or is it the result of external factors? In the instance of “you make me happy,” is it possible to be happy (or unhappy) in spite of another person’s best efforts? Surely, it’s possible. We see evidence of this every day.

As I said, it’s something I think about pretty often because I do work so hard at it. For me, it’s something inside that I have to nurture and protect with a lot of mindfulness (“does it really matter what this person thinks about me?”) and self-talking (“I can do this. It’s just rush hour traffic – people commute every day.”) and even then, it isn’t a sure thing.

One thing I do know, however, is that I prefer to be happy. No matter how hard it is or how much effort it takes, I have to believe that it’s better to aim high and miss occasionally than accept the alternative and do nothing to change it.

What do you think?

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2 thoughts on “What Does it Mean to be Happy?

  1. I think it varies from person to person. I know for myself it’s similar to your situation my love. I used to feel like I needed another person to make me happy. For a while there that was the case. Over time it’s changed. Now it’s more appreciating what I do have and being happy that I don’t have it like some others. Life may not be perfect but it is far from terrible. It is something I have to thank you for really, you’ve taught me a lot about appreciating what you’ve got, and I can’t recall if I ever have thanked you for that. So, Thank you for showing me that.

    At the same time, seeing you and the boys (and your family/my family) happy just adds to my own happiness. You are right in that it takes effort and time sometimes but I think for me personally it is worth it, always. I’m proud of the effort you have put forth into being happy and everything that you have accomplished in the last year and a half. :-* ❤

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