What Does it Mean to be Happy?

It sounds like the easiest thing in the world, doesn’t it?  Just being happy?

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It’s another one of those things that I think about from time to time, though, mostly because it isn’t so easy for me. It’s something I have to work to achieve and sometimes I have to fight hard to maintain. Over the last few days I have struggled with it and even now I don’t know if it’s due to quitting smoking, the cold I can’t seem to shake, the rainy weather, or the fact that my home life is changing drastically this week (for the better, I should add, but it’s still a big change). Nonetheless, it has been difficult and I have been wondering.

Are we happy because good things happen? Because bad things aren’t happening currently? Is it because people do nice things and we feel what we feel in response to those things or because others have simply ceased being negative in our presence? When someone says “you make me happy,” I have to wonder if they require another person to make them happy, much the same as when my nephew says “I’m bored” (which I can’t stand) because he wants me to find something for him to do. Is happiness something that begins inside or is it the result of external factors? In the instance of “you make me happy,” is it possible to be happy (or unhappy) in spite of another person’s best efforts? Surely, it’s possible. We see evidence of this every day.

As I said, it’s something I think about pretty often because I do work so hard at it. For me, it’s something inside that I have to nurture and protect with a lot of mindfulness (“does it really matter what this person thinks about me?”) and self-talking (“I can do this. It’s just rush hour traffic – people commute every day.”) and even then, it isn’t a sure thing.

One thing I do know, however, is that I prefer to be happy. No matter how hard it is or how much effort it takes, I have to believe that it’s better to aim high and miss occasionally than accept the alternative and do nothing to change it.

What do you think?

~ Credits ~

Skin Appliers: Lara Hurley-Diana Rose Pale *Catwa Appliers* ~ Lara Hurley
Head: CATWA HEAD Catya ~ Catwa Clip
Ears: [MANDALA]STEKING_EARS_Season5 ~ Kikonosuke Eel
Eyes: IKON Hope Eyes – Quicksilver ~ Ikon Innovia
Mesh Body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara ~ Onyx LeShelle
Nail Appliers: Hello Dave – Nail Appliers – Tumultuous 8 ~ Maia Gasparini

Hair:  .Entwined. Amelia / Materials ~ Vivienmarli

Top: BTTB tragic gacha – tee & shirt RARE female BOOB MAITREYA ~ Jacquesvalentine ~ NEW @ TMD (until May 31st)
Jeans: Addams // Lixie Ripped Super Skinny Jean // Maitreya ~ Amalia Rainwood
Shoes: [Gos] Karima Sandals – [maitreya] – Black ~ Gospel Voom and Caelan Hancroft ~ NEW @ FaMESHed (until May 27th)

Sunglasses: {le fil casse} coachella bound! retro shades glam ~ Jacinda Jaxxon
Earrings: ZC : Sarayi painted hoops *silver* ~ Zaara Kohime
Rings: Kibitz – Rae rings – maitreya – silver ~ Kathya Szczepanski ~ Available @ Kustom9 (until May 10th)

Pose: oOo free_two ~ Olaenka Chesnokov

All That Glitters

All that glitters may not be gold but I don’t think any of us can deny its irresistable lure. There’s something decadent about wearing it from head to toe and just revelling in the soft glow of warm, golden light. It’s very fancy.

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I’ve wanted to put a picture like this together from the moment I saw Gos’ gorgeous Lesina sandals at the newest round of FaMESHed because, goodness, look at them. It’s no secret that I have a weakness for shiny things, pretty trinkets and doodads, but I do try to keep it classy when class is the aim. 😉

Styling, for me, isn’t just about wearing a thing I like anymore, though. I’m always looking for cohesion. Bringing different elements together from different corners of the grid is something that satisfies me beyond measure but .. let me share a little bit of my process with you here:

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The Devil Of Hell’s Kitchen

“I’m not seeking penance for what I’ve done, Father. I’m asking for forgiveness… for what I’m about to do.” -Matt Murdock

The Devil Of Hells Kitchen

I, Lucky Spiritor, have a confession to make…I’m a huge comic fan, more Marvel then DC though. Since Marvel really started putting their all into their movies I’ve been so completely into them. It all started with Iron Man and everything since then has been gold. At least in my opinion of course. Then Marvel decided to start doing some television series. They started out with Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. which I have to say I still haven’t managed to watch. I have all of it, but laziness has prevailed there. Agent Carter followed that, airing during mid-season breaks for Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D Continue reading

Thematic Tuesday – What’s Your Trope?

This post could have been about a lot of things. I considered writing about what it takes to put an outfit like this together, how rewarding it feels to bring something cohesive together that feels new and, best of all, exciting! How easy it is to get stuck blogging one  thing or another in Second Life but, gosh, how none of us need to settle. Not for one flipping minute!

So instead of writing another fashion review post I want to talk about another place to find inspiration because, and I hope you believe me when I say this, even the most creative people breathing need a bit of help sometimes. 😉

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A good chunk of my ability to style fashion pieces to work within a scene comes from my love of role playing – once I have a scene in mind, most of the concept work is already done for me – but even non-RPers can draw from personal experience to do this. Continue reading

“What was that, meow?”

That’s RIGHT!

Our favourite cobbler Gos made his first official donation to the PDSA this week! The total was a staggering £1553.14 (around $2364), all earmarked to care for the pets of people in need by providing free veterinary services to their sick and injured animals as well as to promote responsible pet ownership.

Gos for PDSA 600 Full (A larger picture is waiting for you here! )

You can read the full details on the Gos Boutique Blog and pleasepleasePLEASE visit the shop in-world to try these amazing shoes for an important cause. If you aren’t able to buy a pair of shoes (or maybe you already have all of them 😉 ) there are donation boxes throughout the store. Continue reading

Truth and Longing

Writer’s block: DEMOLISHED!

Well, mostly.

If you’re just tuning in now, you might have missed my newest blogger challenge! Yes, I was having a hard time putting words to (metaphorical) paper and I’ve noticed that the longer you put writing to one side, the harder it is to start up again.  Hence the challenge to just post something, already! 

Feeling similarly stoppered up? Give it a try!

Raw Truth 600( The Truth.)

I hope you’ve heard by now that our beloved Sea Hole is closing. Like me, you might have wondered why a star brand at Collabor88 was missing, only to sigh, nod sadly, and sulk over the news for days. Whether you made it to the mainstore right away or not, whether you bought half the store in one fell swoop (like me) or resolved to get a few things, only to find you absolutely NEEDED the entire store afterwards (also like me), it is my sincere hope that you have done everything in your power to send this incredible designer out with a bang (and all of your L$). Drinkenstein Sorbet, you will be missed! Continue reading

Writer’s Blog-err.. Writer’s Block Challenge!

We have ALL been here. Some of us more recently, some less so. Some more frequently, some only INfrequently.  Writer’s blog .. blog .. BLOCK (I keep typing ‘blog,’ wth) is a very real issue, even if you don’t write much to accompany your pictures, you may still find the thought of posting in your blog uninspiring.

My last post was February 25th. It’s May 19th. I think it’s fair to say that there’s a problem here.

So what do we do when life is busy, stressful, and generally not conducive to thoughtful introspection?

We find a new challenge, of course!

So here it is: My challenge to YOU, oh bloggers of SL, is to write a single blog post. I’m going to help you get through this in less than ten steps. Observe! Continue reading

Sophia’s Mean Reds

Holly Golightly: You know those days when you get the mean reds?
Paul Varjak: The mean reds, you mean like the blues?
Holly Golightly: No. The blues are because you’re getting fat and maybe it’s been raining too long, you’re just sad that’s all. The mean reds are horrible. Suddenly you’re afraid and you don’t know what you’re afraid of. Do you ever get that feeling?
Paul Varjak: Sure.
Holly Golightly: Well, when I get it the only thing that does any good is to jump in a cab and go to Tiffany’s. Calms me down right away. The quietness and the proud look of it; nothing very bad could happen to you there. If I could find a real-life place that’d make me feel like Tiffany’s, then – then I’d buy some furniture and give the cat a name!

Sophia Shine L 600 (A larger shot, just for you dahling. )

Okay, so I know this isn’t the first time I’ve quoted Breakfast at Tiffany’s here, and it certainly won’t be the last, but when I was composing this look (oh, I don’t know, about a week and a half ago *sigh*) I was feeling some of those ‘mean reds’ myself. Life gets overwhelming on occasion, everyone knows that, and sometimes all you can do is go to Tiffany’s or, you know, haul buns over to the Gos Boutique to look at some new shoes. Why not swing over to the Designer Showcase  to pick up shine by [ZD]‘s new mesh outfit while you’re at it and certainly, certainly treat yourself to the gorgeous new LeLutka hair, some jewelry from Paper Couture, and lovely, lovely makeup from cheLLe.

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